Why Do We Shout In Anger?

saint who was once visiting a river to take a bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples, smiled and asked.

'Why do people in anger shout at each other?'

 The disciples thought for a while, then one of them said,

 'Because we lose our calm, we shout.'

 'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner,' asked the saint.


 The disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.

 Finally the saint explained,


 'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.


 What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small..

' The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they need not even whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.


' He looked at his disciples and said, 'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.' 

The False Human Belief

As a man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime can break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.

He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”

The man was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before?

Moral: Failure is a part of learning. We should never give up the struggle in life. You Fail not because you are destined to fail, but because there are lessons which you need to learn as you move on with your life.

truly inspiring video

Why are Goals Important? - Must read

On the best sunny day, the most powerful magnifying glass will not light paper if you keep moving the glass. But if you focus and hold it, the paper will light up. That is the power of concentration.

A man was traveling and stopped at an intersection. He asked an elderly man, "Where does this road take me?" The elderly person asked, "Where do you want to go?" The man replied, "I don't know." The elderly person said, "Then take any road. What difference does it make?"

How true. When we don't know where we are going, any road will take us there.

Suppose you have all the football eleven players, enthusiastically ready to play the game, all charged up, and then someone took the goal post away. What would happen to the game? There is nothing left. How do you keep score? How do you know you have arrived?

Enthusiasm without direction is like wildfire and leads to frustration. Goals give a sense of direction. Would you sit in a train or a plane without knowing where it was going? The obvious answer is no. Then why do people go through life without having any goals?

MEANINGLESS GOALS

A farmer had a dog who used to sit by the roadside waiting for vehicles to come around. As soon as one came he would run down the road, barking and trying to overtake it. One day a neighbor asked the farmer "Do you think your dog is ever going to catch a car?" The farmer replied, "That is not what bothers me. What bothers me is what he would do if he ever caught one." Many people in life behave like that dog who is pursuing meaningless goals.

Life is hard by the yard, 
but by the inch, 
it's a cinch. 

--Gean Gordon 

10 things to know about Anna Hazare 'n Jan Lok Pal Bill.. !

10 things to know about Anna Hazare 'n Jan Lok Pal Bill.. !

1. Who is Anna Hazare?

An ex-army man. Fought 1965 Indo-Pak War



2. What's so special about him?

He built a village Ralegaon Siddhi in Ahamad Nagar district, Maharashtra



3. So what?

This village is a self-sustained model village. Energy is produced in the village itself from solar power, biofuel and wind mills.

In 1975, it used to be a poverty clad village. Now it is one of the richest village in India. It has become a model for self-sustained, eco-friendly & harmonic village.



4. Ok,...?

This guy, Anna Hazare was awarded Padma Bhushan and is a known figure for his social activities.



5. Really, what is he fighting for?

He is supporting a cause, the amendment of a law to curb corruption in India.



6. How that can be possible?

He is advocating for a Bil, The Jan Lokpal Bill (The Citizen Ombudsman Bill), that will form an autonomous authority who will make politicians (ministers), beurocrats (IAS/IPS) accountable for their deeds.



8. It's an entirely new thing right..?

In 1972, the bill was proposed by then Law minister Mr. Shanti Bhushan. Since then it has been neglected by the politicians and some are trying to change the bill to suit thier theft (corruption).



7. Oh.. He is going on a hunger strike for that whole thing of passing a Bill ! How can that be possible in such a short span of time?

The first thing he is asking for is: the government should come forward and announce that the bill is going to be passed.

Next, they make a joint committee to DRAFT the JAN LOKPAL BILL. 50% goverment participation and 50% public participation. Because you cant trust the government entirely for making such a bill which does not suit them.



8. Fine, What will happen when this bill is passed?

A LokPal will be appointed at the centre. He will have an autonomous charge, say like the Election Commission of India. In each and every state, Lokayukta will be appointed. The job is to bring all alleged party to trial in case of corruptions within 1 year. Within 2 years, the guilty will be punished. Not like, Bofors scam or Bhopal Gas Tragedy case, that has been going for last 25 years without any result.



9. Is he alone? Whoelse is there in the fight with Anna Hazare?

Baba Ramdev, Ex. IPS Kiran Bedi, Social Activist Swami Agnivesh, RTI activist Arvind Kejriwal and many more.

Prominent personalities like Aamir Khan is supporting his cause.



10. Ok, got it. What can I do?

At least we can spread the message. How?

Putting status message, links, video, changing profile pics.



At least we can support Anna Hazare and the cause for uprooting corruption from India.

At least we can hope that his Hunger Strike does not go in vain.

At least we can pray for his good health.



Thanks for reading.



Please Spread This msg As Much As You Can 'n Tell Others To Do The Same.. !

ARMY KID.................

1.You were born in a Military Hospital.
2.Half your toddler years were spent being looked after by Bhaiyas.
3.You went to school either on Bhaiya's cycle or in a Shaktiman.
4.You know what a shaktiman is. ( No! it isnt the TV serial about half man and half machine starring AB lookalike). It is a vehicle which moves with a Shakti-man in front and a danda-man in the rear.
5.1 Tons, Jeeps & Jongas dont excite you - they were your regular mode of transport!

6.The only alternative to the Central School was the Army School.

7.You always called Kendriya Vidyalaya Central School. Gosh even today that sounds better!

8.Your entire family could survive in one room temporary quarters with 25 trunks, wooden crates, the dog, the bedroll and a bhaiya flitting around.

9.The smell of Brasso & shoe polish was regular staple in the house.

10.Mess was not what you created in your room, it was where you went every Friday for the free "English" movie or on Sunday for the brunch. On Sundays you also saw a Hindi movie in the unit's open air theatre where at times you saw the ending first and beginning later...

11.The "English Movie" was very often a western and you couldn't follow a word! Sometimes you just went for the samosas and the local drink made in the unit soda water factory - that they insisted was Cola.

12.At the end of the month your dad had to pay for many pink slips showing how many samosas, chips and local drinks that they insisted was Cola you had consumed. They never missed any!!!

13.You attended many May Queen Balls before you knew what Miss India was.

14.Your mother regularly got dressed, perfumed and disappeared for the Ladies Club.

15.You knew towns like Madhopur, Pathankot, Jammu, Mhow, Wellington, Deolali, Bhuj, Gopalpur, Lansdowne, Dehradun.....

16.You weren't a millionaire but hey you had Swimming, Horse Riding, Squash, Tennis and Golf!!

17.You can still take one quick look at the epaulets and figure out the rank.

18.You discussed Wednesday's Chitrahaar or 'He-Man' in the Shaktiman.

19.You can still recall the special & particular smell of the CSD canteen! A special prize for the correct concoction - mine is - it was a mix of Hamam Soap, Ponds Dreamflower Talc & Surf i think. In some corners it had overtures of Brooke Bond red Label as well.

20.Your vacations were a package deal consisting of D-forms, Nikhil Uncle Ka jonga and Army Mess ka kamra.

21.All vehicles mysteriously appeared or disappeared from a vacuum called "EMPTY"

22.When "CO UNCLE" !! was happy he took the unit out on picnic and when he was GLAD he organised a "PAGAL GYMKHANA"..and then everyone got GLAD !! When he was not happy, he kept everyone busy with meetings.

23.No one commented on the dressing sense of any body - "Olive Green trousers" and "Brown Shirt Angola"...what a combination!!!

24.Every house had a settee (which looked more like a narrow coffin!!) made out of condemned ammo cartons or wooden boxes, sarkari blankets and an old embroidered table cloth.

25. ........and then Papa retired....

#it took Mom about 5 years to get rid of the "KABAAR " that had been accumulated/ hoarded over the years to include about 30 to 40 wooden boxes all painted black, not to forget a pile of files...

#14 Brass Mementos which looked like Knights on horses, Old Cannons or some sort of imaginary work of modern art which looked more like flashes of Lightening ( the concept of which only Papa could explain after two drinks!!) ,

#Eight or Nine empty Brass Shells which bhaiya used to brasso every time we had someone visiting our house,

#Four sets of Naga Spears, Five types of Dahs, Two Khukris, One Mizo Bow and about 20 Arrows, Fishing Rods ( the hooks had been hidden by Mom long ago lest some brat managed to get them inserted into his hand or eye!!)

#Three single and double "Machchar Danis" and 32 rods/ bamboo sticks,

#Two World War II helmets, One Parachute, about Two High Alti Parkas,

#Papa's 10 pairs of shoes, One shiny green coloured Great Coat, Ten fungus eaten leather belts , Moth eaten sarkari Balaclavas,

#One High Alti Sleeping Bag, Two Mattress Kapok,

#Key chains made out of M14 Anti Personnel Mine Safety Clips,

#One Pack 08 and about four FS Packs, Web belts, One pistol Holster,

#One cowboy hat,

#Four Daggers,

#about Five walking sticks ,

#Two sarkari canes,

#One Leather Crossbelt, about five Whistles,

#Thirty KGs of Hazen Cloth in various stages of decomposition !!!! ,

#about 80 KGs of Drift wood,

#almost 400 White coloured Stones that were picked up from some godforsaken riverbed in Sikkim or J&K to be used one day for Landscaping of the Garden after retirement,

#60 to 70 Flower Pots,

#100 Meters of water pipes ( in bits and pieces),

#One unused fish aquarium ,

#50 Meters of Cable WD,

#Old Blanco Cakes,

#One Folding Camp Cot,

#One folding Camp Chair which has the nasty habit of injuring the hands of any inexperienced person trying to open it.

#Two Namdas,

#about Four to Six rusted dog leashes still attached to rotting dog collars and

#not to forget the JHOOLA that was made long ago after taking a lot of obligations of the "Work Shop Uncle".

Our kids are still proud of what they got and are aware of the sacrifices their parents made, toiling honestly and with fullest integrity. It steeled our kids to give their best and feel grateful for every additional comfort they receive. They know that ours is a culture apart which millions of Indians would want to experience and are highly envious about. Well done Army kids. You are the best and the products of the best upbringing. You make your parents proud and indeed the Army is proud of you.